Rise & Shine VII

[melissag]

3b, have you spoken with your DB coach recently? I feel like she (he?) was the one who helped you to set the boundaries in the first place.

I know you have been enforcing some of the boundaries, but your H still seems like he is a crazy cake eater.

I agree with LFW and GM - perhaps your C's advice would be helpful if you and H were both committed to working on your M. But you are well beyond that. Like the others said, you can't (and don't want to, I assume) control what he does. You need to focus on what YOU do.

If your H is not going to commit to coming back, do you feel you need to move forward with your life, as a separated woman? If so, what do you need to do to make that happen?

When you take away the hope that, by these actions, you are somehow making him want to get back together with you, do YOU really want to have family day every Sunday? Do you want his visits with the kids to be at your house? Etc.

BTW, I am sorry if I missed this somewhere along the line, but I don't think I have ever known whether your H's EA is still just an EA, or a PA? Aside from working closely together, what is your H's R with the OW?