I found for me no matter what I tried in the beginning , it only brought temporary communication
sometimes no contact helps the LBS to detach more
This is the time to work on you..take very good care of you Therapy is very helpful
You will understand more in time
I agree, having kids only complicates this already painful process because then more people are hurt and the LBS has to figure out how to take care of the children and usually alone
keep posting Peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow