He says mean things to justify to himself the horrible things he is doing to you. Any rational person would never be able to live with themselves after hurting another human being the way cheating spouses hurt their wives/husband
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction