I agree that you should have zero expectations about this trip. For you, it will be no better having her there as she (and your M) is now, than it would be to go without her. You have some time so see how it feels when it gets closer. I would say, however, that I think it would be great for your boys, if you and W can manage to get along well enough.

I went on a previously planned trip with my H and kids and another family six days after BD. It was painful. It would also have been painful to go without H. But my kids got a family vacation - the last one they will ever have - with both parents. I don't think you can underestimate the importance of that.

Just throwing in my two cents. smile


me: 44 XH: 42
M 11 years
D10 and S8
Bomb drop 9/27/13
D final 7/1/14