Take Two ...

[Train]

Wellllll, I *have* been considering prepping to take the LSAT and possibly going to law school. I know that sounds like a HUGE (and expensive) decision to tackle right now, especially for a SAHM. But it's *always* been in the back of my mind, and H knows it. (And there are grants/financial aid out there for SAHMs like me!) Just not sure I'm ready to put S7 in school and D2 in daycare. The expense of daycare, in and of itself, is a huge turn-off for me jumping back into work/school.

The *other* problem with using that is I'd have to spend months prepping for just the LSAT. So there's no *immediate* need for that amount of $. So that may not be an option to use right now.

Then I thought: How about something specific for the house? But he knows I'm moving out sooner than later. So I don't think that would fly, either.

Maybe a trip with the kids?? A cruise? Disney/Legoland?

If I make it about the kids, he'd likely be more open to voluntarily sharing.

But if he's still thinking that he's saving that $ for OUR legal fees - or even thinking that he might use it to help OW - I expect he's going to be really stingy with it. The fact that he routed it into his business account instead of our family account speaks to his plans to control it. He feels he's entitled to it, I'm sure, since he's the only one of us who worked outside the home last year. He doesn't "get" that whatever he had in 2013 is half mine. He seriously doesn't get that. I don't mean this to be ugly, but when it comes to common sense, he isn't the brightest bulb in the pack.

I guess I could come up with something and approach him, "acting as if" he'll say yes?

If I'd have to approach him with the "it's rightfully mine" attitude, I'd rather he goes ahead and gives OW her $, and then I can make sure my atty includes my half of the refund in any future financial paperwork/support payments H has to pay.

That's assuming, though, D is inevitable for us.

Too danged much to consider here ...