So tell her you'll add her to your account.

And then open up a separate account, in your name only, and don't tell her. Have your paycheck DD'd into THAT account, and then automatically transfer whatever amount is needed for your contribution to the now-joint, shared family expenses account.

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BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)