Sounds like your h and the ow are feeding off of each other's issues. He is treading some dangerous grounds by doing the taping and he better hope he's never discovered because he could end up not only losing his job, but doing some jail time if he tries to use the info in a blackmail scheme.
How long does a relationship last w/the OW? In a normal, sane relationship it could be any where from 18-24 months, but w/mlcers, it will need to die a slow natural death and in some cases it takes years or they go even go as far as get married down the road. It all depends up them and whether they can continue to feed off each other, meet new people, etc. No telling at this time, but you an always have hope that something will intervene and they go their separate ways.
While they are playing Superman and Lois Lane, I would make every effort to keep the focus on myself and find things to keep me busy. Are there any hobbies and/or projects that you've not done in a while that you use to enjoy? What about a new hobby? Have you seen a good movie lately?
Please take care of yourself while he's out circling the planet.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
