any updates? being male myself, think long and hard about the forgiveness thing you mentioned. We all mess up, but one huge thing in my R/M right now is the fact that my wife holds grudges about every thing I've ever done or said that hurt her. I've apologized, I think sincerely, for each and every instance. It's obvious that there's no forgiveness. Nothing can be fixed without it. Yes, trust will take a while to regain, in the face of infidelity, but forgiveness is a choice, you can do it.
other than that, are you sure you're not fighting for the M because you don't want to "lose"? cuz I don't know that I hear a lot from you that you love him.
