Thanks LFW and gabbysmom! When my IC suggested it I was immediately uncomfortable with the idea. All along I have said that I want my H to make choices on his own because he wants to not because he feels pressure to do it.
I think that I need to find a new IC. My IC is fine to just talk to and vent but she has yet to provide any great advice. The advice that I have gotten on these boards has been a million times more useful.
The lack of good solution based therapists is crazy especially given the fact that I live near a major city. It actually makes me want to go back to school to become a therapist to help people in my exact situation.
