I was feeling better this morning. I had planned on acting like nothing changed (because nothing really did othet than I got the confirmation I have thought I wanted)

I planned on explaining that I had transferred money to make sure I had enough to cover s expenses and that we didn't run out like we did last month.

I told him this morning that I had been asking for months to separate finances and I really wanted to sit down and figure out joint expenses. He asked why. Looking at him all the emotions from last night flooded back and I said something along the lines of your girlfriend should be supporting you not me.

Again like he has for months he flat out denied her existence. Do other cheating spouses continue to deny for so long. Hr has been denying for 8 months. 2 months before BD.

Then I get weepy and started taking about how it is unfair that he brought his new dog into my life and let me fall in love and now he is going to take him away. And then I moved into the cats.

Have I learned nothing??

his response to all this is he had no idea why I am thinking about these things. Every thing will work out and I am thinking so much farther into the future than he is.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15