Thanks Sandi I didn't pressure her to do this and in fact I fully expected her to decline when I asked her. She agreed but made it clear that it was as friends. I should add that we have to try and do this as we have a family holiday to visit my sister abroad coming up in a few months that has been planned and paid for from way before this started. She really wants to go and our eldest ( mildly autistic) has stated he wants his mummy there. We couldn't go together if we are still at the place we are now. I was hoping she would have come out of her fog by then ( she is acting like a complete stranger) but she shows few signs of that right now so we have to see if its possible for us to be in eachothers company to gauge whether or not this trip can work. I am prepared to go alone with the boys if needs be but it breaks my heart as it was supposed to be our dream holiday, we didn't go on holiday last year to save for it and its horrible to contemplate going without her. I thought that if we tried to get on then we might have a chance, but I know if she starts seeing someone between now and then it would destroy me and bring us back to square one. I just need to know how to proceed from here on in. I have ordered The Divorce Remedy so will start reading it when it arrives. But any other insights would be welcome.
