Rule #1 Is no snooping. I broke it for the first time in months and now I don't know what to do. I always knew there was OW. I knew who it is. But all I had was circumstantial evidence and he completely denied it.

Now I have proof. He left phone unattended for first time since BD. I went to kitchen to get paper towels because s threw up and there was a text on his phone saying I love you. I scrolled back a few months getting sicker and sicker reading some of the exact stuff he said to me.

I have known for 6 months. Why does it hurt so much?


What do I do now? I transferred achunk of money into a personal checking account. He has been working less and less and I am basically funding it.

Do I confront him and tell him to leave? I can't enabling him. He is clearly just using me for money and maid service.

He had been so much nicer lately I started to hope things were turning around. I am such a fool.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15