not sure how far gone we are...

[SeanB]

KShane, you asked about this on my thread. I'll answer here.

can you elaborate? I have seen so much stating aloof, and I fear aloof will allow more distance to be created.

Aloof is a little too cold, like you just don't care.

Acting "As if", on the other hand, suggests that you are in control of yourself, and that you are confident and prepared to move forward with your own life on your own terms. You still care, still are engaged, but you can deal with the alternatives.

thanks Zew.