No, not wrong at all. You need some answers, but the problem about the OM's parents is nobody can guarantee they won't find out......or how long it may be before they move......if ever. Besides, how could you trust anything your W or OM said at this point?
I can see why your W would not want to tell anyone that the baby is not yours, but living that kind of lie can catch up with you eventually. Maybe you cou.d get your pastor's advice.
The way your W responded about the pastor is not a good sign.. Instead of being remorseful and ashamed when he talked to her, she gets an attitude about it. She definitely still has the heart & mindset of a WAW.
I am very concerned that you will be facing a grueling time. So sorry this has happened.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
