All the better for meeeeee! I'll make the popcorn. Y'all c'mon over.
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I think it makes the wayward feel more important.
And I think you are dead-on. It's entire speculation on my part, of course, but I think - if their self-esteem is so poor that they turn to an A to boost their ego - then it stands to reason that they'd pick somebody "beneath" them ... or at least "beneath" their spouse. They must have someone to make them feel BETTER about themselves ... not WORSE. Clearly.
H's OW apparently had her stomach stapled a couple years ago (even though I've never seen a photo of her in which she looks obese). She ain't nothin' to write home about, but she's not obese. A friend's sister worked with her and said she has terrible self-esteem. And I read in texts with H how she was popping "anxiety meds" during her D11's dance competition.
Sooooo, yeah. Pretty much my polar opposite.
Here's the thing, though: HS, I've been reading "His Needs, Her Needs." One of the Top 5 "needs" of most men is for their spouses to be physically attractive.
I guess the book is speaking only in terms of spouses ... and not A partners? 'Cause, see, that just doesn't make much sense to me. Why do *I* have to be pretty? But she doesn't?
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
