Still Together & Trying To Work It Out!

[Azagtoth]

MrBond,

Thanks for the reply. I guess I have been viewing MLC & a WAW as two different things; wasn't grasping how they are connected but I get what you are saying now. She just spewed so much crap out all at once; some of it was off the wall and way out of character and she talked in circles. I wasn't able to digest or make any sense of it. You are correct on the running emotions!

Yes, I have been attempting to increase intimacy. She has been wanting to talk to me a lot, about anything and everything! This is her way of connecting; mentally & emotionally through sharing! I have also been involved with her; spending QT and sharing our interests together. She is just now starting to open up with everything so I am letting her lead, listening and validating her feelings.

"Alpha" is just my way of describing being the leader in the relationship/bedroom which appears to be what she wants. Bad choice of words / description. Passionate is the word you used...and I agree....that's exactly what it was like in the beginning and that's how it seems to be recently!

We were doing the MC, but after what has happened, I spoke to the therapist and she suggested we put MC on hold and let her work IC with my wife exclusively. My therapist is very pro-marriage and has worked with couples far worse than we are. She said Wife needs to work through her issues first and need to give wife the security of having our therapist to herself for now so she feels safe to talk to her. Wife agreed and said she would feel comfortable with that and wants to continue seeing her for IC.

We cooled for past couple of days (to give her some space and not push) and then I get a text this morning "We haven't talked that much, huh?". I responded we could talk about anything anytime and it opened the flood gates; been going all morning. She wants to pillow talk tonight as well!


Azagtoth