It sounds like a lot of us LBS end up with fuller plates... the WAS seems free of a lot of responsibility. At first I was so resentful. That was actually always an issue in our M. But now... I'm now seeing it as a source of strength. I am doing so much--on my own. Look how strong and capable I am! My lack of independence was an issue in the M, too. And now I am so strong. And he is showing how weak he is. Feeling pity more than anger these days. How great you are to be able to handle all that stuff on your own, amd how lucky your kids are to have such a wonderful parent as you. Hang in there.