I agree with you 100% I am in the same situation where husband wants to see kids every morning and put them to bed most nights. (She lives on the same street just 3 blocks down) my db coach said he has never seen a walk away husband come back due to punishment but I think maybe it needs to just be done in a non punishing/this ifs just the way it has to be kinda way to make them feel their choices. I give you credit for being so strong!
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction