I had IC yesterday. My IC thinks that I should try and break down my boundaries a bit. She said that my H is clearly not ready to cut ties with OW. She suggested that I say that in order to keep the R we have had the past couple months (however you would define it), he needs to take some smaller steps to show that he actually does care and respect me, which he claims to do. Her suggestion was that H agree to not drive in the same car with OW. She thinks that if he agrees it will show that he is doing some work and that he is not just sitting in limbo. She said that if he does not agree then I know that he is really not willing to do anything on his end and that it will help me move forward. She thinks that it will help more than the black or white boundary of "if you have a R with OW, then you can have no R with me."
