Originally Posted By: ye
Originally Posted By: mach
Own YOUR part, not her feelings about your part....


I dont underestand this, could you explain it with more details please?


I did the other day, and I will put it up for you again.

this time with a little more explanation...

That's okay though ye, this takes time to fully understand how this plays into our life, or our new reality...


Originally Posted By: Mach1 3-26-2014

Stop trying to be the Martyr (by taking? her pain?), and realize that what she says, is her version of the truth.

You have your version of the truth, and where the two different versions meet, is probably where the real truth lies....

Listen to what she says, apologize for the things that "sting" that back of your neck, try to understand the things that don't sting...



In this case though....

No more apologizing to her about it.

YOU have to start looking at the things that you want to be different about yourself, not what she wanted to be different....

Were you that way ???

Did you do those things ???

When you can say that you were, or did, without saying "but" after it, and have examined WHY you were like that, then you will have owned it....

Start taking a look at the "whys" when you say that you did something....

For now though....focus on the burn up the back of your neck when you read that ^^^^...

That's a good start in finding the things that you don't like about yourself....


Make more sense ???