I have received so much amazing advice here. I have read other threads and gained awesome advice. Why can't I make myself put it to use? I know what I have to do but I cannot force myself to do it.

The most recent gem I picked up was this:

"Keep in mind that things can still change. Don't give up hope but also don't dwell on getting your H back. Work on yourself and in time your H may realize what he's losing. It can take a LONG time but it does happen. There are people who have reconciled after being separated for years.

If you can be happy on your own and overcome your own issues you'll be ok no matter what."


This is what I need to work on


Me: 33 / H: 36
M: 10y / T: 14y
3 kids
BD: 2/22/14
Live in separation 3/8/14
H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14
H moved out 4/25/14
2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month