I'm thinking through one of H's complaints about our marriage and could use some input. He says I overthink/overanalyze everything. That's certainly been true since BD. I have constantly been trying to read the underlying message in what he's saying. The more I read here, the more I'm resisting the temptation as it is mindreading. H's complaint is specifically that he can't talk to me because I overthink everything. He has even said that he understands it now, because of what we're going through, but that it existed before. I do have a very analytical mind. I think through my thoughts, words, and actions and will often replay them repeatedly in my head. I also frequently do the same things with others' words and actions. I think I understand his complaint. Sometimes I attach meaning to his words that may have little or nothing to do with his actual meaning (or so he says). I'm looking for a way to do a 180 on this. Is this something that I just get better at avoiding through practice? Has anyone read a book that addresses something similar?
Hope, I do this all the time. W has similar complaint. It's so hard for me to take things at face value. It's something I struggle with as I watch her post things on social media with pictures and quotes that can lead to 2 separate roads. So I am left to try to battle not to reach the worst possible conclusion. She often tells me Fear stands for: False Evidence Appearing Real = FEAR.
Me-39 W-39 M-2 T-7 BD 3/31/2014 Still living together
