Well we had a two hour conversation. Some about the details of divorcing, finances, she is now fessing up to the concept of 50/50 physical custody doesn't feel right to her. She thinks it would be better for the kids to be with her for school days, alomst all. I disagree.
I listened though, truly listened. She is so closed to an R. I argued quite eloquantily I think about how where she is in life, where I am in life, how could a future marriage not be soooo much better than our previous marriage. I mentioned that if our marriage would be the same in the future that I myself would file for divorce.
There was no holding back on this last ditch effort. I hope that the space I have given her has cracked the wall a bit so that she can at least envision a possibility of us working things out.
She agrees that she has issues, I stated I had issues, and if we both worked on them how couldn't our marriage be better? Round and around, same things, refined/stated a different way.
Not sure of the results.....she said she had to have a break and go to bed as her head was spinning. She asked how i could have anything to do with her, knowing that she had no inclination to put forth one iota of effort into repairing our marriage.
I stated that 'i loved her, coupled with the fact that I think she is incorrect, I can only have hope and faith that I can reach her'. IDK. Better and a deeper conversation than any we have had so far. I feel somewhat drained as if I poured out all my emotion and used up my listening skills for the day
me 41 w43 married 20 years BD 10/10/13 ILYBNILWY.... 4 kids, 21,18,8,6
