Why do feel the loss of the bed might mean something to her? What do think it would mean?
We pretty much behave as if everything were normal. She has wild mood swings from icy to normal with both me and kids. She is 90% focused on her new job now, and everything else is kind of an afterthought. She denies A, so there is no A. She sleeps in bed as if everything were normal. She slept in guest room one night after an A confrontation. By morning, she was back in our bed. It must mean something to her, she could move any time if she wanted distance from me. It's likely just show for the kids, but I'm not itching to pull the kids into this either. If she lost bed, it would be a constant reminder that things are not normal. I don't know how much that is worth. Again, the bed idea was largely because it is constant, visible and could be done.
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are you and W having sex?
Not since Christmas, I have no interest in seconds. Also a non-verbal statement of rejection on my part, although she is happy I haven't initiated. I'd speculate that if I did initiate, she'd go along with it because "everything is normal". But it would be horrible sex that I have no appetite for.
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limit the cake eating (which is tough when living in same house with kids)
I am at a complete loss as to how it could be possible.
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and holding the line with her showing you respect while at home and in front of your children.
I called her on a snark she made in front of D12 last weekend. I won't tolerate that.
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I think one of the worst things a man can do is act afraid of his W.
I know I'm not afraid of her. I don't fear her leaving; I just think we can do better than this. I have no intention of losing myself in this, either. I'm just frustrated by my limited power to actively apply myself productively.
Thanks for stopping by. I absolutely will avail myself of the good advice on this board before doing anything rash.
