Take Two ...

[Train]

Yep. Can't enforce it. So might as well not throw that one out.

H came by to get the kids. He was in a much better mood than at lunch. I asked him if the rest of his day was better. He said he was approached by his boss today and asked what's wrong. He says he replied: "I'm mind-f---ed. Going through a divorce."

He knows I've gone to a L, but in a very natural segue, I used what he said as an opportunity to FINALLY say:

"I have not yet filed. I told you I'd like to wait until at least June - when I think I'll be thinking more clearly - to make any major decisions; that includes filing for divorce. I want to make sure I am thinking clearly, and I am trying to make sure I have my children at the forefront of every decision I make."

He hesitated and said: "The courts will make sure they're provided for."

I told him I'm thinking about far more than financial stability for our kids, but that I think I will be thinking more clearly by June. I reiterated I don't *want* a divorce right now. I explained that there are two of us in this R, though, and he can file if he wants to, and there are certainly ways he could force ME to file before then.

He said waiting until June is fine.

He also changes his mind like he changes his underwear.

I reiterated, in a natural place in the conversation, that I have no desire to talk about anything relevant to our R or M until or unless he has ended his A with OW.

We had a beer together, and he left.

And I am letting go of the outcome ...