Thanks GB and bunches. It was eady to let go of expectations re myself because he made it clear he wanted nothing to do with me.

I am still having a MUCH harder time having no expectations re: s. A big part of that is that h is physically here. I need to syart thinking about his time with s as child care. Hopefully one day it will be parenting but that is not happening now so I j6st have to plan to build extra time into morning or whatever el se it takes.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15