Just from an outside glance, and only refreshing from the posts here the past couple days...

I would say that Lost is talking about you still looking toward your spouse, for your answers....

You are still very dependent on who, what,when ,where , and how she does something, before you can make your choices.

Her mood affects your mood, rinse, lather, repeat...

It really affects the person that YOU want to be, when that happens...

Think about that, and re-read your past couple days of posts....

You can't lead from behind Barry....

Start blazing your own path....