Sometimes one has to take a short-term "hit" in the "nice" department in order to solidify a healthier, longer-term gain.
Spectacular words right there, if live a happy life, make new friends, loose those extra pounds, quit smoking, having new hobbies, and enjoying life doesnt bring the spouse back....I rather pay that price and take that bullet then have my spouse back....
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.