Funny. You are projecting what she will do. Maybe if you stop pushing and leave a vacuum that will change the dynamic and cause her to do something different. Who knows. She's depressed and unhappy now, so it wouldn't be different, under your theory, if you stop trying. Good, save your energy then. I think your own sandbox becomes confining when you don't like who you really are or what you're doing. JMO. But you can't complain about her sandbox unless yours is clean and orderly. Work on your stuff and leave her to hers.
