Take Two ...

[Train]

Yep. The bad part is they've already told the story by the time I get around to saying it. Hahaha.

Maybe a big email blitz to all my contacts will help.

H came here - again - at lunch. I am so over it. I honestly don't know how spouses continue living in the same home with their cheating spouses. It's a special kind of torture to see him daily. I may have derailed a little, but I asked him how much longer he thinks his moving is going to take. He snapped at me, saying it's going to take more than 15 minutes during lunchtime to finish. I offered to help since I'm home all the time. He, of course, refused.

He mentioned he was yelled at yesterday for being late to work after lunch. I asked why he was late; he had been here, after all. And he snapped again: "Because I don't want to BE there anymore!" I just walked away.

He gets this way sometimes. It's hateful. I don't know how people stand to work with him. Similar to having to live with him when he's like that.

He was in a more lighthearted mood in previous weeks when he was around. It could be because I've switched my approach a little: fewer niceties, more boundaries. Feels counterintuitive. Which means I'm probably right on point.

But he seems to be growing distant and angry in response. He's not smiling at all except when he's with the kids.

It could be that whatever OH has that shows undeniable proof of the A "came out," and that's what has triggered the mood shift. The timing is right. And it must be big for it to have made OH land himself at an atty's office just weeks after trying to reconcile. Especially when he doesn't have a job. That's a pretty ballsy (and frightening) move; I know from experience. Perhaps OW is under extra stress right now with her M crumbling.

I could see any of that causing H to become snippy and bitter and distant, too.

But, hey, this is what they wanted, right? Each other. Not their spouses. We are making it "easy" for them to be together. They most certainly planned to be on Cloud 9 without us in their way. Guess that's not turning out quite like planned.

Just wondering if I should stick to my current approach or go back to being a little softer. I'll probably stay "here" for a week or so and monitor what happens?

Signed the conflict-of-interest waiver today for my firm to represent OH. Onward ...