Where you make a mistake is when you open your mouth and try to reason with her. You can't do it. You will come out on the losing end every single time. She will twist your words to suit her mood or circumstance at the moment.
There have two times you have told about since the couch incident.......and you let both of then slide. First, she spoke disrespectful about you to your D. You should have called her out about that. Second, was this selfish act of her wanting to do whatever she wants and expecting you to do whatever she says. Again, you let it slide. Why?
Do not try to discuss it logically with her. She is a WAW in an A, so you can't get her to see logic. You tell her what you will or won't do, plain & simple. Then walk away from her or continue on with whatever you were doing, but don't argue and don't let it slide.
Don't be a hen-pecked H who is afraid of his W. There is nothing attractive about that type of man. Don't let her control you by accusing you of being manipulative, etc. She use any words available to throw at you in order to stay in charge.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
