I'm sorry you are having some stressful times. I'm an animal lover to so taking care of the dog isn't cake eating. In regards to your s, I think it's important not to to interfere with the that relationship. Meaning if your h doesn't do something for s that's on him. I know you are going to help s regardless. The point is that h (regardless of how he is behaving) is a grown up. I say don't remind him of stuff and no mothering.
Just my very weak 2cents:)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
