So I have had the dissolution paper work for a week now. Since the papers were bent from him mailing them I pulled up new documents and electronically put the information in and reprinted.
Months ago I said to myself that when he sent the documents I would send them back with a note saying "I wish thi gs could be different but if this is what it takes for you to get the happiness you desire...all the best to you".....I no longer have the need/want to send a note along. I will be putting the documents in a yellow folder.....simply for protection so the pages to get all bent and wrinkled, I personally want the courts to recieve crisp clean paperwork lol thats just the type of person I am....but the folds happens to be yellow...its all I had on hand....but maybe subliminally the yellow while make him feel like he needs to take caution.... lol
But really I am ready to move on with my life....there are so many other men on this earth who would probably be a much better fit for me...i will definitely go for someone next time who is the opposite....I wont marry for love again...I wont follow my emotions but balance it with other important factors as well.
My old highschool boyfriend contacted me again.... the conversation went slightly left with a comment he made....so I ttold him I was confused, just a few months ago he said he was happily married. He was always a liar......he finally told the truth, they are going through a divorce....he leaves her. Why? Because he realized he wasnt "in love with her...therefore shes not 'the one'" *excuse me while I roll my eyes*.....I told him I wouldn't judge his desicion, but yeah... (obviously I am totally put off by that)
He went on to say he could see us together....I asked him to please not talk that way....and also that it would never ever happen. I dont plan on talking to him again any time soon. He is clearly in a WAS fog.
So terrible, I wish I could reach out to the wife and offer support....but ive never met her.
Well I guess thats enough rambling for today.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope