Hi Friends! I have been working so hard the past few months. It has been so very draining. But something so great has happened. I got a loan and my house is now mine, not ours.
Terrifying, but yet so exactly what I wanted. I love it here. No place else has ever felt so right to me. My X is working on buying his own place. And I am working on getting a better job.
Anyway, I haven't had much to say, I guess time does heal all.
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Congrats! I bet you feel as if it is all new again since it is just in your name. Now you can do what you want without having to worry about ex or a potential buyer.
Yippee! Kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Wendy, That's terrific news. Now you can do what you want w/your home w/o any comments from the xh. BTW, is he paying you rent now that you own the home by yourself? If not, he should be.
Congratulations! I'm very happy for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Wendy, I am SO very happy for you. Having been to your lovely home - I certainly know why you want to stay. It is also very empowering to do it on your own.
If you ever decide to take in a boarder - I'm sure Ashley would be on the next plane. She absolutely loved you, your home & your lifestyle.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
He plans to be out by 15 April. He offered, in advance, to pay rent for the overlap time. He has been acting very nicely through all this, he has continued to repair the house, do the lions share of the outside work and he even took me sailing a few times.
So I guess things are good! Thanks friends, I've missed talking to you all!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Wait! What? You bought the house? I thought you were moving to California! Holy cow! Good for you. I hope you didn;t have to pay too much to buy him out?
Will you be getting roommates to help you pay the mortgage?
Several months ago I had a 'guest' therapist, supervising my therapist. He sat in on a session. And he asked he a funny question. He asked if I had a magic wand what would I change in my life. My answer was that I would keep my house. Which was funny, because I have been thinking to move was my best solution.
So I contacted several mortgage people. And the guy I used really did pull a rabbit out of a hat. But I get to keep my house which I love. I didn't have to pay much, because part of the divorce decree was foe the credit card debt to be paid out of the proceeds from the house.
I spent the last year getting those paid down and finally off. I also paid off the truck, which was mine in the divorce. So I gave that to my X. So I gave him a $15K truck. And the rest of the proceeds was supposed to go to me as cash. He kept the boat and his retirement funds.
I will have to rent out the guest house (AKA Love Shack) and maybe the two big bedrooms. The house is big and very dividable. I am sure there are some fine people who will appreciate a chance to live in such a cool place.
Now I just need to get a promotion and I will be able to hire a gardener!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
So I put the guest cottage up for rent. 6 people contacted me. 5 came over to look. They all want it, but I'm not sure I want them! The best candidate appeared with a 3 month old German Shepherd puppy. Well she might not know this, but I do: Puppies are hell on property! I really wanted a single person and 2 of the people were halfs of couples. I need to figure out how to advertise on base.
Anyway, my price is right and I just need to keep interviewing until I find the best fit!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
