I'm in a different sitch. My H has been working overseas for years, only home a couple times a year for a few weeks. Had a good time last summer on vacation but after that we became distant. (around Oct) We used to talk almost everyday and went to talking every other or every few days. I knew something was off but didn't address it. He said he wasn't feeling well, I was lonely, blah blah blah.

When he came home in Feb things def were not right. We didn't do things together, he barely touched me, no sex at all. When he told me he was going to file for D I was not completely shocked, but completely heartbroken. After being home for a week and a half he told me on Monday 2/10 and I dropped him at the airport on Friday 2/14. Pretty sure he went and spent the weekend with someone that weekend.

I did send a couple of emails when he first left which he did not respond to. It was a couple of weeks after he left before we had any contact and I am always the one to initiate. Almost all contact is regarding "business," bills, taxes etc. Anything that is personal gets no response, I've only sent one personal email since the first few days.

When we talk there is very little small talk if any at all. The other day I sent him a text that simply said "thanks :)" ( he had transferred me extra $$) and he did not respond at all. It is very hurtful after 17+ years of M he has shut me out.

I guess I'm concerned because other than not talking to me his life has not changed. He's been away from his family and home for 6 years. I am almost 100% sure there is an OW so he is talking to someone that is filling (for now) his emotional needs.

I know there is really no answer to my question but wondering if NC and the distance is helping or hurting my sitch. And try as I might I can't get into his head! smile

Me-44 (45)
H- 50 (51)
M-'96

S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)

BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas)
home Oct(sep rooms)
(EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed)
insists wants D through July 2015
no more talk of D since