Is this what everyone means by "cake eating"? I feel like the current sitch is enabling h to lead his no responsibility do what ever he wants life. He cut back hours at work but still has all his expenses covered. He has no responsibility around house. Minimal responsibility for s. If something doesn't get done on his night with s (homework or bath) he knows I will pick up slack in morning because I will not let S suffer the consequences. The puppy is another great example. Who gets a puppy and then regularly stays iut until 2 am? Someone with a doormat at home. Again, I cant let the dog suffer.

None of this is new. I am sure I have ranted about it before. It is just really getting to me today as I have been fighting with s for a week to let me cut his nails and he is screaming "only dad will do it." hint. .dad isn't doing it.

What I get out of sitch is s under the same roof as me every night. That is big.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15