Barrybran - Yet Another Thread

[Barrybran]

My wife called me earlier about a mediation we are trying to set up with D4's biological father. She gave me the ins and outs and it was nice to hear some positivity in her voice. She also spoke to me calmly and listened when I spoke which hasn't happened in a while. Given our situation I asked my wife whether we were going into this as a team or as individual parents. I hated asking the question but I'd rather ask it and be on the same page as her than not ask it and fly blind as far as my wife's feelings about D4's situation. My wife said sge wasn't bringing our situation into the mediation and that I would be D4's dad regardless what happens with us or mediation. She's been great through this situation as far as my kids are concerned. She's reassured me that I will be their father no matter what.

So I've had a positive interaction in that we discussed something rather than having her get snarky and sarcastic and yet awkward because our situation affects D4's situation. One thing I do know is that I feel uncomfortable talking to my wife lately. I don't feel she takes me seriously and I know I'm supposed to let her come to me but I also should feel comfortable discussing things about the kids or her behaviour towards me without feeling as though I'll get my head bitten off. I need to get to the point where I'm comfortable saying things to my wife and her response (or lack of) doesn't affect me but be available to listen when she speaks or responds.