Ye, I agree, I'm not ready yet and our sitch isn't anywhere near being to the point where any mention of being friends or especially working on our M would be taken positively. I was thinking more about how does anyone know when a good time would be?
I just recognize how far I've come and think my W would think my changes are very cool too, the problem is I don't think she really has seen them yet or if she has she doesn't believe they are real or permanent.
Mel, she doesn't seem to have any interest in R at all, but then I don't necessarily believe everything she's saying about that either. I think she doesn't want to do anything to encourage me or give me any hope so she's being as cold and detached as she can be. Believe it or not, my W and I pretty much did share the same brain (pretty incredibly at times) and I still get the feeling that she has feelings for me but she's afraid to ever show that in fear she would be hurt again.
As far as being friends, I think I could be for sure. We're always going to be joined together as parents to our kids and that would be so much easier if we could get along well. She's definitely not treating me as a friend right now. Hopefully given enough time that will change. She's missing out on some very cool changes with me, if she refuses to see them then it's her loss
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS