3B - I can totally empathize with the desire to fix... (I was just talking to bug about this - lol).

I think many of us here are guilty of that. It's hard and it takes a lot of constant work to change those habits, but the fact that you can see it and recognize it for what it is, is half the battle. Kudos for you!

I applaud your introspection and openness to change and improvement within yourself. You should feel proud of that!

In 12 step programs, we say "let go and let god." I find it a great reminder in all my R and in many, many situations.

You are doing great!

Me & H: 44
D7, D6, S3
Together: 20y, M: 17y
EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10
EA becomes PA: Spring 2011
H filed for D: 09/06/12
D Negotiating began 2/15
OW seemingly gone on 3/15
Still negotiating D