Need help saving my family - part 8

[melissag]

Scorp, it certainly doesn't seem now is the time for you to have an R talk with your W. I know, I thought the same thing - what if he misses me but then if I go LC/NC he will think I don't love him anymore? Here's what everyone told me, and it is true. If your W has any interest in working on the M, she knows how to let you know. Right now she has made it crystal clear that she has no interest in that. (I'm sorry, I don't mean to be harsh, I know it [censored] but you need to make sure you are being real with yourself.)

I just don't understand how anyone can be so stubborn and unwilling to even consider that we could at least be friends if nothing else.

You may never understand her reasons for what she has done or will do. Most of us don't understand WASs at all.

But honestly, would you really want to be friends with your W at this point? There was a point where I wanted to be friends with my H, but then I realized that the real reason was so that I could try to win him back, or so that it would be harder for him to find someone new. What is your reason for wanting to be friends? Could you really ever accept just being her friend, after being M to her? Is she treating you like a friend right now?