I'm sorry you find yourself here. I know how tough it is, but if you're going through this situation, I don't think there's a better place for you to get support.
My H has said many of the same things yours has said. I love you, but I'm not in love with you, we're better off as friends, etc.
Now he says he just doesn't love me anymore, can't envision us happy together again, and left because he was just so unhappy and worried that our daughter would be affected by the tension and lack of warmth in our home.
This ^^^^^^ is part of the WAS script. You should read Sandi's rules in the newcomers section. One of them is believe none of what he says and 50% of what he does. Just because he feels this way today, doesn't mean he'll feel like that tomorrow.
Have you read DB or DR? They are both great resources.
As for your question, yes, DB is worth it. One of the concepts in MWD's book is that it takes one to tango. Changing what you are doing can change the dynamic of the relationship. There is no guarantee that any of our M's will be saved, but using this time to work on yourself can only be good for you and for future relationships (whether with your H or someone else).
