Thanks for making me a fighter...

[AJM]

I agree WH. You should file the complaint. You didn't ask for it. You didn't ask him to lie to you. And like a child, you need to set boundaries.

Your question has anyone else gone through it? Yep. Still am. My son will be 18 next year. Then most of it ends. I say most, because we have kids together and there will be "something" if she can that she will try. It's inevitable. A question of when.

Why am I worth it? <shrugs> Who knows? Who cares at this point.

You're not at that point of not caring. Of looking at it as "why not me?"

You said it yourself. He blames you for things. Like a child that doesn't want to take responsibility for his own actions.

That's his problem though. Yours are different and you need to take care of yours. And if he doesn't get mad about this, it'll be something else, real or contrived. Your actions won't matter to him because he is not rational. If he was, your actions would be friendly and would ease the tension. But it's not in your power. Put that load down, m'dear. Focus on you and the kids and what you can control.

Make sense?

AJ