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[tbm4evr]

I am thankful for this forum and everyone's feedback. It's been a good place to express my feelings as well as to explain my sitch.

Tonight W says shes going to get home from work early tomorrow so we can "celebrate" our son's birthday with him opening his gifts before she has to leave for a meeting at 645. Then says the meeting is over at 9 but she's going out afterwards with her divorced girlfriend and the other girlfriend who has been in a 3 year affair. I said well on Friday night we are out with your folks and sister for dinner for our son's birthday and we were going to come back here afterwards for cake. She says "oh yeah" can you bake the cake tomorrow night (our boy has nut/egg allergies so we always have to bake it)? I guess I should have kept the peace but I said "huh, why don't you cut your meeting short or cancel your outing with your girlfriends and you can do it - you need to get your priorities straight and I'm not really into baking". She went nuts ..."there you are being manipulative, trying to control me ..i can't wait for the D to be final ..four more months ..." i said you're reading into it too much and she says there you go again telling me what you think im doing. I told her calm down ...i will bake the cake. Was that stupid? Should I have refused and let her figure out what do? I'm having a tough time on the fly trying to figure out how to deal with situations. What kind of bugs me is any W in a healthy M would not be out with girlfriends like that the day before their sons birthday party when a cake needs to be baked - but we're not in a healthy marriage.