And here I was thinking that the OWs husband was being dismissive and burying his head in the sand!
Whatever the OH gathered may help you down the road, if you need it. In the meantime, like you said, no need to do anything.
I'm going to predict that the A with the OW will crash and burn sooner than later. This means that you can take your time and give your husband all the rope he needs.... Enforce your boundaries and meet none of his needs. Let the OW to try to meet ALL of his needs- I don't think this grocery cashier will be able to.
Way too tired to write more (long day). Sorry about the news, though I'm sure it's not a total shock!
