Take these broken wings and learn to fly...

[chasingpavements]

Ok, so something is really bothering me right now. We do not have our separation agreement in place yet, I would like to get it in place soon, because I feel so uneasy not knowing how everything is going to work. Mainly I am worried because I am living in the matrimonial home right now, whereas he moved out to a town rental, and his rent is considerably lower than the mortgage payment of the matrimonial home.

So I am just wondering, how do we split our finances now, before our separation agreement is in place? That is my main concern. Right now our paychecks both go into our joint account, and we leave enough money for the matrimonial home mortgage, as well as the bills for this home, and then we split the remainder equally, for our spending money for groceries and gas, etc.

My guess is that H is having to dip into a personal loan in order for him to pay for his own house rental right now.

He is now asking me how we should start splitting finances. I have NO idea, and quite frankly it is worrying me!


I imagine he will have to start paying me child support payments, if not also spousal support payments. But how do I figure out how much he should be paying me? I have a general amount based on the the support tables from my lawyer, but I can't really say for sure, since it is more of a range, and I don't know yet whether I will be getting the low or high range of the amounts.

I know that the mortgage of the matrimonial home where I am staying is about $600 more per month than his house rental, and his house rental charge INCLUDES utilities. It doesn't really seem fair to me that I am stuck at the house, with a higher cost of living than him, because he wants to move out of the house and his new house is much cheaper. I don't know what to do!

I also feel so lost because I don't know who to turn to, or talk to or get advice from for this matter.

Is this something that H and I need to figure out amongst ourselves right now, as we do not have the separation agreement in place yet to determine the support amounts I will be receiving? I feel so uneasy, that I will not be able to afford anything moving forward. I at least want to be able to pay the bills until we sell the house, if that's what we end up doing.

Is he responsible for paying any of the mortgage since his name is still on the title?

I am so overwhelmed, I feel just sick, and I don't know where to even start.

How have others on here managed splitting finances with their spouse before they had any official agreement/documents in place??