If I was on the outside looking in, I think it would be easy to say we need to tell our WAW's to end A or we will no longer be friends with them, will file for D, etc.
Well I don't think telling them you won't be friends has any impact. She doesn't want to be my friend most of the time. And when she is friendly, like tonight, when she asked me how my day at work was, I think it is just to keep me happily strung along. She bought me another muffin for work today too. That used to mean a lot to me, but I think she bought it yesterday on way home from banging OM.
And as for telling them we will file for D, I'm with Yoda on this one - D or D not, there is no tell. Deeds, not words.
Still the only thing I can come up with short of filing is kicking her out of the bedroom.
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Because my W is not open with her OM relationship, it's hard for me to tell if she's taking the steps to end A or not. Whether she's truly giving us a shot (as she claims) or just cake eating.
If she's told you she's going to end the OM relationship, you should insist on writing the NC text with her, and being copied on it when she sends it.
