Zew, I think you, me and several other LBH's on here are in the same situation. If I was on the outside looking in, I think it would be easy to say we need to tell our WAW's to end A or we will no longer be friends with them, will file for D, etc. I can't imagine telling a friend to stick with it if I knew their W was having an A. But like you mentioned, unless you're 100% prepared for W's potential response, it could be a risky move.
I've gone back and forth on this issue for the past couple weeks. Because my W is not open with her OM relationship, it's hard for me to tell if she's taking the steps to end A or not. Whether she's truly giving us a shot (as she claims) or just cake eating.
I wish you the best and will continue to follow your journey!
