Let me make something very clear. A WAW can be nice and respectful to a stranger, but it doesn't mean she wants him for a H! Stop making it more than it is on those few times she decides to have a better mood. She will be nicer for a few hours, or maybe a couple of days......and you think she's "trying" or putting effort toward the R. She isn't. You must stop allowing this to throw you off balance b/c her mood swings cannot be the bases for the M. The MR won't get better until she ends the A. So don't get your hopes up whenever you have a good evening. Like I said, she can show respect and good manner toward a stranger, so you need to make certain she gives you "at least" as much as a stranger.

It is your decision about the bedroom. But if you decide to take back your bed, just move into the room and get into the bed, or start to get in. She will have a fit, so brace yourself and don't turn tail and run back to the little room. Tell her, "Why should I suffer using the little room? I'm not the one having an A and wanting to break up the family.". She may kick and scream or throw things around the room, but you must just roll over and pretend to go to sleep. Don't react to her anger. Don't tell her she has to respect you? Do not discuss it. Do not get into a R talk, no matter what she says. I

Or you can quote back the statement she made to you for not making introductions. wink


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!