It's a fine communication line, but one that's extremely important. I don't think there's hardly ANYTHING wrong with his message . . . only maybe its TIMING and its DELIVERY.
I'm not too far off from you on this one Starsky. I think he absolutely should tell her what he needs in the relationship....but the way he said it, she's not going to hear anything positive or constructive in all that. And I don't think his intention was to draw a boundary....it was to vent his frustration.
But yeah, had he let it sit a day or two, probably would have been able to craft something that was still direct, but less offensive, if that makes sense.
Originally Posted By: Lifes Twists
Get a life. Don't let her decisions rule yours.
dj, this is a serious good point here (and one that took me a long time to get)....but don't think about it in terms of punishing your W. It's not about that at all....it's about living.
