This is why I want real people to discuss with me. ... Not some pricey lawyer who will make me think I can get more.
I'm a "free lawyer" telling you to get some legal advice and stop letting your prejudice against the legal profession scare you from getting help. Are you like this about doctors? Thinking "pricey surgeons" offer you nothing you can't do on your own?
Look, I'm a lawyer but I hired a lawyer when my h and I separated. First off, this is NOT the time to "scrimp & save"....it's not a used car you are shopping for.
And I'd never consider my own knowledge to suffice, let alone to overcome my personal bias in such an emotionally charged transition. I'm human. I cannot pretend to see things objectively. Can you???
From your posts, it's clear you don't see things objectively, (which is understandable) and clearly, you are afraid to hire a lawyer b/c you think it will "make" your partner get mad and punitive. Fear based choices are never the good ones we make.
You pretend to have "business" reasons for your choices, but you assume lawyers are useless BUT expensive
AND btw, your estimate of the legal fees ("$130g"???) is the highest I've seen anywhere.
Since you have not consulted a lawyer, I have to wonder who gave you that fear inducing estimate....
I cannot tell if you are seeking free legal advice here (it's not the money that stops me from handing it out, it's that it would be malpractice for me to pretend to know the numbers, the jurisdiction, which judge is most favorable, what the latest high courts have said re: common law marriages IF those are even recognized where you are, etc...
AND OR you want us to tell you what to do. We cannot do that.
But there is one common thread in what we all are saying to you... one thing keeps being said-- SEEK LEGAL COUNSEL, which cannot hurt you IF you are simply getting information.
You do not have to DO anything with the knowledge you gain. (Knowledge is power.)
You can keep it to yourself, you know.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
